Sandra Bullock has always been afraid of becoming a mother – especially the mother of a girl.
When her mom was dying, she gave her life-changing advice
Now she is giving up her career to be with them – and it is unknown when she will return.
Sandra Bullock is now the mother of two children, who she welcomed into her family through adoption. However, she was not always so sure that she would be able to handle motherhood and her career.
Her mother, Helga, was an excellent example of what a mother should be when Bullock was growing up, but she could not calm her daughter’s fears about motherhood until later in life when she gave her a sound piece of advice.
Before Helga gave Bullock the advice, though, she made her afraid of having a daughter. Bullock revealed that her mother used to tell her to wait until she had a daughter, and Bullock confessed:
“And the thought that a daughter of mine would be anything like I was scared me senseless.”
However, later on, when Helga was on her deathbed, she gave her daughter life-changing advice by telling her that she needs to open up more. Bullock revealed that her mother had not been an emotional woman.
Bullock revealed that when her mother was dying, she was next to her mother’s bed, trying to hold back her tears and her mother warned Bullock not to be like her. Bullock shared that at that moment, she understood everything.
Her mother had permanently been closed off and shut down when she was growing up, and Bullock realized that her mother didn’t want her to go through life the same way. The actress says that she now feels every emotion unashamedly.
Bullock Assumed Motherhood Wasn’t for Her
Talking to Hoda Kotb on “TODAY,” Bullock shared the story of how she became a mother for the first time. Kotb asked if, as Bullock entered her 40s, she thought she might not become a mother, and Bullock confirmed the notion.
The “The Proposal” star said that she thought motherhood wasn’t for her until Hurricane Katrina happened. She revealed that after the hurricane, something deep inside her told her that her child was in New Orleans.
She then traveled to New Orleans, found her child, and began the process of adoption, which Bullock said involved filling out multiple forms, being judged by people for who she was and whether or not she could have kids, and getting ready to be a mother.
The process took Bullock four years, but after that, her son was finally legally hers. She revealed:
“I looked at him and said, ‘Oh, there you are.’ It’s like he’d always been there. He fit in the crook of my arm, he looked me in the eyes, and he was just wise.”
Although Bullock did not think she would find a child, she happily welcomed her son into her world and said she was always told: “The perfect child will find you. You will find your child.” She believed this was what happened to her.